I Want Separation Cuz of His Drug Problem (Coke), but He’s Bent on “Saving His Family”. Not Gonna Be Easy.?
Question by lisamj: I want separation cuz of his drug problem (coke), but he’s bent on “saving his family”. Not gonna be easy.?
Has been several years of his drug use and I’m done with him. My teenage son from another relationship hates him. I have 2 daughters by him. I have the money and means to support myself, but to be honest I’m a little fearful of what would happen if I do leave. He has a job, but other than his paycheck he’s worthless. What to do?
Most of the men in his family (uncles) were drug addicts. His father died when he was 3 but from what I heard he was a known alcoholic.
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Answer by BRAE
no offense but your situation is a no brainer. leave him, not just for yourself but for your childrens sake. they dont need to be around him and his addiction, its just bad news. why are you fearful anyways, get a restraining order and then go for full custody of the children and child support. enough is enough and they only way he will ever even attempt to get over his addiction is when he see’s that you wont tolerate it , that is if he even cares. you cant make him get help, he has to want it and he isnt going to do that until he hits rock bottom, what ever that is to him. maybe losing his family will be his rock bottom.
Answer by Linda B
Fearful of what would happen if you do leave….
Fearful for him? Or, fearful for yourself?
You can not worry about him if you decide to leave.
He is a grown man and must learn to take care of himself.
You already stated “I’m done with him”.
If you are not happy, and can take care of yourself, then leave.
You will be fine….
Him, probably not so much….you haven’t said if he was getting help for his addiction problems.
I suspect the answer is no…..to which my reply would be NO to staying together.
With addictions…..their habit always comes first before you or family or anything else.
As long as he is addicted, he will keep on dragging you right down along with himself.
He needs help and without it….this will be an endless and tiresome life for you.
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